A Preteen’s World

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https://www.jewishboston.com/parents-of-tweens-in-boston-and-haifa-connect/

Anila Ray, Journalist/ Editor

Being a preteen is kind of like riding a rollercoaster. There are many ups and downs. People from ages nine to twelve are considered preteens or tweens. 

 

One of the challenges, in a preteens world, is school. Many at the preteen age deal with the transition from elementary school to middle school. This can be stressful. As middle schoolers, they have more responsibilities, from getting to class in time to finishing that big important project. It’s no wonder that school can cause stress. To make it worse, many preteens feel like others have high expectations of them, making their anxiety a lot worse. According to an article from NPR News, “In most cases, that stress is from academics, not social issues or bullying, the poll found.”

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Preteens and teens often have high expectations of themselves and aren’t very happy when those expectations aren’t met. “When high school junior Nora Huynh got her report card, she was devastated to see that she didn’t get a perfect 4.0,” the article also stated. Some big stressors that are related to school are the standardized tests.

 

In the article about causing kids stress, Marian Wilde wrote, “From kindergarten through high school, the causes of childhood stress are numerous. One of the most commonly cited is standardized-test stress…” Although school changes often affect preteens, academics aren’t the only factors that change how we behave.

 

Being a preteen in the social world is hard. Many preteens are very self-conscious on how their peers perceive them. This can be a large contributing factor to the effects of peer pressure. Because many preteens want to ‘fit in,’ they tend to make decisions with the crowd. “The lower the self-esteem the higher the susceptibility to peer pressure,” according to Michael Schreiner, author of the article Peer Pressure and Low Self- Esteem

 

Tweens tend to focus in particular on how they may appear to the outside world, especially their peers,” Jennifer Powell-Lunder states in her article, Finding Followers: Tweens Cash in on a New Commodity. Preteens can change their behavior simply because of how other people might see them. They might be influenced by their peers to think that their interests are bad. They might second guess themselves before sending a text. 

 

Despite all the complications, being a preteen isn’t a bad experience. For many people, being a preteen means having more independence. You’re able to make more choices on your own. Another perk of being a preteen is being in middle school. Though being in middle school is sometimes difficult and stressful, it also opens up many new opportunities. Because middle school involves moving from class to class, preteens get to know more of their peers. As a result, they can make more friends, something that is very important to all types of people. 

 

“I think that some of the biggest challenges, being a preteen, is that you’re kind of stuck in the middle. You’re no longer in elementary school, but you’re not in high school yet, so it’s kind of, like, preparing you for when you get older. So there’s a lot more stress, a lot more work and it can be really stressful. It can affect your mental health. But some of the positive things are, you get more experience to group working and you just prepare yourself for when you get older…” said Nia G, 12, when asked about the positives and negatives of being a tween.

 

Like anything else, living as a preteen is a far from perfect experience. However, being a tween is still a valuable experience. Many preteens are given more freedom than they had earlier in life. They get to make more choices. In school, with many different classes, they get to meet and interact with more people. Being a preteen changes us all, and it’s a new adventure every day. 

 

 

Sources:

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2013/12/02/246599742/school-stress-takes-a-toll-on-health-teens-and-parents-say#:~:text=A%20survey%20by%20the%20American,to%20the%20feeling%20of%20stress.

https://www.greatschools.org/gk/articles/stressed-out-kids/

https://evolutioncounseling.com/peer-pressure-and-low-self-esteem/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lets-talk-tween/201412/finding-followers-tweens-cash-in-new-commodity

https://www.dictionary.com/browse/preteen#:~:text=Also%20called%20pre%C2%B7teen%C2%B7ag,immediately%20preceding%20one’s%20thirteenth%20birthday.

https://www.jewishboston.com/parents-of-tweens-in-boston-and-haifa-connect/

Interview with Nia G.